Yo Momma!

Dear Bella-

My husband, Sam, has an unusual relationship with his mother, Geri.

Sam claims that his mother is perfect and an Angel and I will never compare to her. Geri knows how much money he makes however, I haven’t a clue and I am his wife! He will not tell me where his money goes but I do know that he insisted on a separate checking account between us but shares one with his mother. Not to mention, Sam earns almost four times what I do but does nothing to contribute to the household or our children.

Sam has never bought groceries but I’ve had to pawn my own jewelry, work over time and borrow from my parents so that I could feed our three children. Sam has never given me a dime to help for school clothes, doctor’s visits nor has he ever bought any of the children a gift or me for that matter. As far as our home goes, he never bought anything for our house.

His mother is in our business constantly and claims that she does it out of “love” because she “wants to help us”. If we are not home to answer her call, she will demand where we were and Sam will tell her. But when Sam is off somewhere and I ask where he’s been, it’s none of my business and then says I am trying to control him. It’s okay for Geri to question him twenty times a day but if I do, I’m “intruding” on his life.

I could go on and on – this is nothing compared to the rest but you probably get the picture. What can I do to make Sam understand that his relationship with his mother is creating a lot of turmoil between us? I have nothing against a close relationship with your parents but this is going overboard. Please help me. ~Lost

Dear Lost-

Sure I’ll help you.

Tell him to go fuck his mother.