Web of Lies

I asked a stupid thing of my grandmother. I asked her if she would help me buy a condo for me, Belle and Bello. Two things first:

1. You can’t buy a home in a matter of two weeks.

2. Our lease is up at the end of this month with our current place. We either sign another year lease or pay month to month. We can’t afford the month to month rental price.

So, I asked my grandmother another stupid question: Could we live with her until we get our condo? She said that she has been lonely since my grandfather died and she doesn’t want to live alone and she would love to have us stay with her. Then came the biggest slap in the face and I can still feel the pain in my cheek:

My grandmother says – “There’s something I think you should know and it’s about Bello. He’s not happy in the relationship. He had a talk with your Aunt’s boyfriend when they went Christmas shopping and Bello said that he felt he was being forced into this relationship and that you are a very negative person and that he doesn’t love you.”

I was shocked. Speechless. I asked if she heard it straight from my aunt’s boyfriend’s mouth. She says, “No, I didn’t and I can’t tell you who did tell me.” Right then and there, I knew this lady was lying to me. She has said mean things about Bello in the past but this was by far crossing the line.

I called my aunt’s boyfriend and spoke with him and he was shocked that my grandmother had the audacity to use him as a scapegoat. The poor guy; he’s new to the family and he’s already being dragged into family bullshit. He told me that he and Bello never had a conversation about our relationship and he was upset that he was put in the middle of all this.

I cried for hours because I was hurt by her boldness to try and destroy a wonderful relationship. You can feel if someone is no longer in love with you; there are certain things that your significant other does and says that would lead you to question the relationship. Bello has never given me a reason to question our relationship. EVER. He has never questioned me.

I realized that this is what she would want me to do; to dwell on it and find one little clue of something out of place and blow it up. So I stopped thinking about it, went about my day and went home and had a wonderful conversation with Bello about it. Of course he was hurt; there was no irritated defensive behavior, just hurt and the wonder of why my grandmother hates him so much. “What did I do that was so bad that I deserve this kind of treatment? Did I do something and not realize it? Did I miss something?”

I don’t know what to do. I have been avoiding her for two days now. My contact with her for now will be limited. She outright made up an unbelievable lie and forced me to question something that I have, that is so special. I no longer see her with the same loving eyes.